It’s International Women’s Day today. Being a woman throughout history has been hard to say the least. Whether it’s been due to a lack of any kind of say, or vote. Or how millions of women throughout history have died whilst giving birth. It is without a doubt that being a woman has never been easy. Even today we are in a world where on average women still get paid less than men, and there are fewer women in high powered jobs.
So today I have come up with a list of advice and words of wisdom, to hopefully help Lily find her way in this tricky world where women have to fight so hard. I hope that when she is my age, perhaps a mother herself, that the issues for women are a lot closer to being resolved.
Always vote– women died so that you can have a say, don’t waste it.
You can achieve your dreams– but you have to work really really hard. They won’t be given to you on a plate.
Never let anyone make you feel stupid or incompetent. They simply do not have the right to do that.
It is better to be in no relationship than a bad one. (Advice given to me, by your Grandad)
Pick arguments wisely. Don’t be a walkover, but if your getting annoying about something you won’t remember in 6 months time, is it really worth the fight? (Advice given to me by your Grandma)
You don’t need makeup. You are beautiful as you are naturally. But if you do want to wear it, I will help teach you how.
Don’t let yourself be pressured in to doing anything you don’t want to do. Know that you ARE strong enough to say no, and I’m always here to support you.
If you ever need me I will be there. Even if it’s 3am and you’re somewhere you shouldn’t be.
If you have friends that make you feel bad/inferior/unappreciated, they aren’t real friends. Friends should lift you up not drag you down.
It’s OK to not have a career path all mapped out. I have never known what I’ve wanted to do, try different things, explore different paths, you will find the path for you in time. There’s no rush.
Talk about your problems. To me, other family, friends, anyone. It will help you figure out the answer.
Never bottle up emotions. But learn to control them. Take deep breaths. Don’t get blinded by strong negative emotions such as anger or worry. You will learn to control them but it takes time.
Worrying gets you nowhere. It does no good. Things often work out better than you feared.
Stand up for yourself. Don’t let people push you around. Don’t be scared to say no– to your boss, a friend, or partner.
Love yourself. Take time for you, be selfish sometimes and put yourself first when you need to.
Read. You’ll discover new worlds and escape from the day to day.
Never stop learning. School can be boring. But it is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to learning. Explore areas that interest you even if it’s not covered in the curriculum.
Save. Put some money aside each month. But don’t be frugal if you can afford it. Life is for living.
Travel. There is a great big world out there waiting for you to explore it.
Scared and excited are emotions that are closer together than you think.
Put the technology down. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram it’s all lies. Life through rose tinted glasses.
Have confidence in yourself. You are so capable, trust your opinions, thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid to voice them.
What words of wisdom do you want to pass on to your daughter, or son? Let me know in the comments.
Happy International Women’s Day!